The Key to Developing Your Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is a state of mind. Self-esteem is like a battery.
Individuals with low self-esteem often do not do well in life. They will approach most situations with little confidence though they may be fully capable of accomplishing it. Self-belief is considered the foundation of self-esteem. It provides the extra confidence that one needs to know they can do anything.
Do not mistake self-belief as self-importance. It is more like conceit, spawn over confidence and egotism, which does not lead to personal success.
The right answer is positive self-esteem. This means that you see yourself as good and capable as anyone else, no better or worse, you are proud of who you are, and you approach everything with a positive outlook.
You will have strengths and weaknesses, and you will have achievements and failures. This is what self-esteem is all about– truth in yourself.
Those who always languish are never happy. Those who blame everyone else for their failures also never get ahead. They are consumed with negativity.
It is important to not let your mistakes or failures overpower you, and ruin your happiness. You have to accept your mistakes and move on. Any time you do not acknowledge your mistakes, you lose some of your self-esteem.
Most people gain a lot of happiness from their accomplishments. Their self-esteem rises; they feel like they can accomplish anything. The same self-esteem can fall when that person is rejected or makes a mistake. This can cause a person to feel unhappy and unwanted, and can eat away at his self-esteem until he is very unhappy. It will also impact other realms of his life.
In order to improve your self-esteem, you need to be fair to yourself. A mistake or failure can not be changed, but it can be learned from. Beating up on oneself leads to defeat, and destroys self-esteem.